The new Ace was released yesterday. It contained an article in which I addressed a serious problem occurring between women and men. I stand by everything I wrote, and am willing to discuss the problems I believe exist and needed to be discussed.
The reason I am writing this piece, is to clarify what I meant by my article. I have heard women saying that I was calling black women sluts, and that it was inappropriate for me to pass judgment on certain females. Another misconception about the piece was that people thought I was trying to say women should wait for a good man, abstain from sexual activities, while men live promiscuously. I found it comical when one young lady said that this article showed that I had no respect or love for black women (Yeah, real logical since I came from a beautiful black lady).
Now, I will try to be very clear on what I wrote and meant in my article. I generalized, and I will do so again. I find it pedestrian that I would have to actually put that I am not talking about every woman, but that I am talking about those that act promiscuously.
I believe that black women, and all women, inherently possess great qualities that men see as necessary in their true woman. I talked about the strength of a black woman, the almost unconditional love of a black woman, the intelligence of a black woman, and the unmatched compassion of a black woman. Those qualities are the qualities that a man needs and wants from a woman. I think that women sometimes see that the girls that get the outright attention are the ones that have short skirts, low cut shirts, and legs that open more frequently than the doors at CVS. Those women might get attention from some men, but as men mature and really seek someone to connect with, they will seek those that carry themselves like a Maya Angelou carries herself. Even when men give attention to the Lil’ Kim’s, the attention is not connected to any feeling of admiration, love, or respect. There is a difference between Lil’ Kim’s that get taken to the vending machines of JBKO, and the Maya Angelou’s that get taken to Founding Farmers to discuss future endeavors.
Women must know that they do not have to disrespect their ancestors or themselves by being a Nikki Minaji. Women can be an Oprah, a Condoleezza Rice, or a Claire Huxtable and still get attention. The attention might not be as frequent, but it will be legitimate and worthwhile.
Lastly, the last sentence of my article was to illustrate the belief that men will mature and when they do, the Super head’s get late night texts from freshmen that have heard about them and the Michelle Obama’s get put on television for being a role model. I am not an advocate for male promiscuousness; I am guaranteeing women that by acting in a dignified manner they will not end up alone, because their mature dog will come home.
2 comments:
Corey J,
Even though we hardly talk, I must applaud you on your recent ace article. It popped up on my newsfeed, and I’m so glad it did. You did a great job shedding light on the problem of promiscuous women, which I think has become a serious concern for all women no matter what their race. All women need to begin to respect themselves instead of trying to impress others. As a black woman, I'm always concerned about my reputation, and the message that I may be sending others. I don’t think it really matters what you do behind closed doors, or under the sheets, honestly she could be having the craziest of hookups but what it comes down to is asking the question ‘do you respect yourself?’ I think what is of the upmost importance is trying to keep your reputation untarnished and presenting yourself in a respectable manner. Because, as my mother always said, if you don’t respect yourself no man will ever respect you. In addition I think there is this never-ending competition amongst women. However it is the unconfident women that fall victim to this fight. It is the women with no self-respect, and no confidence that end up being promiscuous and trying to get with everything in sight, because in that moment...it makes them feel better. I did research on the father-daughter relationship amongst black females...and sadly I think that's really where this problem starts. But that's a whole different topic. But really all I wanted to say is that I’m glad to see u express your opinion. Thanks for sharing, Hope all is well.
The uproar regarding this article is very unwarranted. This article written from the perspective of a young black man sheds overdue light on the problems with black women on campus here at GW.As a black man here at GW im appalled at the fact that there are so many young black women here that have , lets say a very extensive resume that follows them around. The community here is so small that every here knows who the "Hos" and "superheads" are here on campus and these young ladies carry this reputation around with no shame. When did these women decide to abandon basic self respect?, certainly the values instilled by their mother are no longer present in these "superheads" here on campus. When did Black women forget that they are Empresses , Queens, straight up royalty?. The majority of Black women have clung onto these values but i cant help but commend you Mr. Corey J for shining the light on "superheads" that have long lost their way.
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