The new Ace was released yesterday. It contained an article in which I addressed a serious problem occurring between women and men. I stand by everything I wrote, and am willing to discuss the problems I believe exist and needed to be discussed.
The reason I am writing this piece, is to clarify what I meant by my article. I have heard women saying that I was calling black women sluts, and that it was inappropriate for me to pass judgment on certain females. Another misconception about the piece was that people thought I was trying to say women should wait for a good man, abstain from sexual activities, while men live promiscuously. I found it comical when one young lady said that this article showed that I had no respect or love for black women (Yeah, real logical since I came from a beautiful black lady).
Now, I will try to be very clear on what I wrote and meant in my article. I generalized, and I will do so again. I find it pedestrian that I would have to actually put that I am not talking about every woman, but that I am talking about those that act promiscuously.
I believe that black women, and all women, inherently possess great qualities that men see as necessary in their true woman. I talked about the strength of a black woman, the almost unconditional love of a black woman, the intelligence of a black woman, and the unmatched compassion of a black woman. Those qualities are the qualities that a man needs and wants from a woman. I think that women sometimes see that the girls that get the outright attention are the ones that have short skirts, low cut shirts, and legs that open more frequently than the doors at CVS. Those women might get attention from some men, but as men mature and really seek someone to connect with, they will seek those that carry themselves like a Maya Angelou carries herself. Even when men give attention to the Lil’ Kim’s, the attention is not connected to any feeling of admiration, love, or respect. There is a difference between Lil’ Kim’s that get taken to the vending machines of JBKO, and the Maya Angelou’s that get taken to Founding Farmers to discuss future endeavors.
Women must know that they do not have to disrespect their ancestors or themselves by being a Nikki Minaji. Women can be an Oprah, a Condoleezza Rice, or a Claire Huxtable and still get attention. The attention might not be as frequent, but it will be legitimate and worthwhile.
Lastly, the last sentence of my article was to illustrate the belief that men will mature and when they do, the Super head’s get late night texts from freshmen that have heard about them and the Michelle Obama’s get put on television for being a role model. I am not an advocate for male promiscuousness; I am guaranteeing women that by acting in a dignified manner they will not end up alone, because their mature dog will come home.
